Last week I had lunch with my two former students, husband and wife Jaume and Nuria. We always see each other once or twice a year for lunch or dinner. Nuria was needling Jaume about his impending 80th birthday bash. “That’s going to be a huge celebration!,” I chimed in, picturing a grand affair with speeches, good food and endless supply of wine.
Jaume gave us both a rather withering look, the sort that suggests “you’ve just suggested I wear socks with sandals.” “On the contrary,” he declared, “no surprises for me. No big celebration with hundreds of people. I want an intimate dinner with you (to Nuria), our son, his wife and our grandkids.”
Before Nuria could get a word in edgeways, Jaume launched into a proper explanation. “In my opinion,” he said, tapping his fork for emphasis, “I hate being the centre of attention. I am, in some way, obliging the guests of their presence. Some of them are just even feigning happiness for being there. A bit artificial, wouldn’t you say?” He was quite worked up. Nuria tried to reason with him.
“But Jaume,” she protested, “you only turn 80 once, and a lot of your friends want to be there with you on your special day.”
Jaume simply gave her a dismissive wave of his hand, a gesture that clearly said, “Don’t be ridiculous,” and returned to his lamb chops. He was quite determined, you see. A brief, slightly awkward silence fell over the table.
I glanced at Nuria, and she gave me a rather conniving wink. Was she plotting a surprise party, going completely against Jaume’s wishes? Or was she merely biding her time, confident she could sway him round to her way of thinking? I thought to myself, Jaume may come off as grumpy but it is his birthday. He can celebrate it however he wants, big or small.
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Just as TFEM cherishes the stories of Filipino expats, both big and small, our 23rd Spring issue celebrates the power of hard work and unwavering determination.
We’re delighted to feature Europe’s Ube Queen, Rhea Topacio, on the cover. She generously shares her roller-coaster journey to success, pioneering unique Filipino products for the European market and building a remarkable legacy.
This issue is packed with valuable insights: financial and mortgage expert Rayon Aquino offers sound advice to empower our kababayans towards financial well-being, while artist Chelony Mercado unveils the captivating world of wearable art through “La Mode en Moi,” showcasing various Filipina artists’ stories through fashion and heritage.
Moving to a foreign country presents significant challenges, but Kristine Ongcuangco Sedej demonstrates the power of proactive planning and financial preparedness in navigating life in a new country, Slovenia.
Chargé d’affaires and Consul General Roderico Atienza shares his appreciation for the cultural richness of Budapest, a city that provides him with precious moments to enjoy culture and classical music. Lyn Lozano Galicia’s story is a testament to resilience, as she transforms setbacks into success as the founder of Bcn Ideal Services, a domestic employment agency.
We also invite you to explore the stunning beauty of Slovenia, with its breathtaking landscapes and out-of-this-world outdoor adventures. MZ Akil’s “Coming Home” column offers a poignant reflection on her move from London to Dubai, exploring the meaning of “home” and the importance of family.
Two days later, I got a text from Nuria telling me that in the end, she was giving Jaume a surprise party. But an intimate celebration with only the six of them. Just as Jaume wishes it to be. “After all, it is his birthday.”
So there dear readers, we hope you enjoy our Spring Issue. Here is to celebrate the warmth and joy of Springtime.
Read TFEM’s Spring 2025 Issue via www.thefilipinoexpat.com/magazine.
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